Solving a pet nuisance: the long game versus the quick fix
Most people want solving a pet nuisance to make things better. The workable version of that goal is steadier: a floor you can hit on a bad day.…
Where parking disputes end: turning choices into a process
Separate two things in where parking disputes end: the outcome you want and the action you can sustain. When the gap is too wide, shrink the action…
Channels for talking to management: turning choices into a process
Anyone who has spent time on channels for talking to management has a failure story: a strong start, a collapse in the middle, then silence. This is…
What a residents' committee does: how to start and how to keep it
There is plenty written about what a residents' committee does and little you can act on. This piece stays concrete: every action can be done by the…
Organising a group order: turning choices into a process
Separate two things in organising a group order: the outcome you want and the action you can sustain. When the gap is too wide, shrink the action…
Risks of shared childcare: the version that fits a real home
Most people do not fail at risks of shared childcare from misunderstanding it. They fail because understanding is not doing. What follows is the…
Using shared spaces: the wrong order wears you out
If you have already tried using shared spaces and dropped it, the fault is usually in the setup: a starting point set too high, an environment never…
Rules for parcel collection: costing it honestly
Advice on rules for parcel collection tends to split in two: impossibly complex, or sold as one click. Reality sits between. It needs some patience…
Coordinating a lift retrofit: how to start and how to keep it
Put coordinating a lift retrofit back into a real week, with overtime, travel and days you cannot be bothered. Any plan that only survives good…
Limits of neighbourly help: when a professional should step in
Put limits of neighbourly help back into a real week, with overtime, travel and days you cannot be bothered. Any plan that only survives good months…
Preventing objects thrown from height: turning choices into a process
Anyone who has spent time on preventing objects thrown from height has a failure story: a strong start, a collapse in the middle, then silence. This…
Effects of subdivided flats: the version that fits a real home
Advice on effects of subdivided flats tends to split in two: impossibly complex, or sold as one click. Reality sits between. It needs some patience…
Joining community events: for people with no spare time
Put joining community events back into a real week, with overtime, travel and days you cannot be bothered. Any plan that only survives good months…
Looking out for an older neighbour: the wrong order wears you out
Advice on looking out for an older neighbour tends to split in two: impossibly complex, or sold as one click. Reality sits between. It needs some…
When a dispute escalates: the wrong order wears you out
Anyone who has spent time on when a dispute escalates has a failure story: a strong start, a collapse in the middle, then silence. This is not…
Managing a rented-out unit: from messy to orderly
Anyone who has spent time on managing a rented-out unit has a failure story: a strong start, a collapse in the middle, then silence. This is not…
Mapping local resources: the version that fits a real home
If you have already tried mapping local resources and dropped it, the fault is usually in the setup: a starting point set too high, an environment…
Volunteering locally: from messy to orderly
Most people do not fail at volunteering locally from misunderstanding it. They fail because understanding is not doing. What follows is the doing…
Settling into a long-term home: when a professional should step in
If you have already tried settling into a long-term home and dropped it, the fault is usually in the setup: a starting point set too high, an…
Approaching a noise problem: costing it honestly
Separate two things in approaching a noise problem: the outcome you want and the action you can sustain. When the gap is too wide, shrink the action…